Being Mean is Being Insecure

"Being mean is being fabulous."

I have read this from a friend's facebook status and I cannot help but to feel sad. It's sad to know that a lot of people think that being mean is being cool. That when you can bully someone, you are powerful and because you are powerful, you feel can feel great about yourself. But you know what, that just sucks.

It sucks because what is truly happening is that you do not feel good about yourself, so you want other people to experience it, too. You do not want to be the only one who is suffering from insecurities, so you inflict them to other people as well. You try to see the imperfections of people and you use what you saw to cause them pain. 

Now, do not get me wrong. I am not a saint and not even trying to be one. I had been a bully and sometimes still is but there is a big difference between you and me. What is that? I know when to stop.

That is the problem with some people. They have been used to the power of being the bully and the fear in the eyes of their victims. They longer know when to stop, when to say enough is enough. What they do not know is that one can easily stop once you place yourself in the shoes of the person you are bullying. Besides, being kind is much, much better than being mean. It just need a lot of practicing but one can get used to it. 

I Miss You Like Crazy

This was the film that I have watched last night. I cried all throughout the movie. I cannot say that I can totally relate to it because the story, which was about a guy and a girl who fell in love with each other at the wrong time, did not happen to me. Wrong time because the guy already has a girlfriend and when he was finally free and able to commit to the girl, the girl was already engaged to someone else. They were two simple persons in such a complicated world, but because they never gave up and still held on to the love they have for each other the two ended up together.

What’s more catchy about the film were the lines and the quotable quotes it offers. I have listed some of them and here they are (hope you can also relate to them):

                    “May mga bagay na panahon lang ang makapagtuturo sa iyo. Tulad ng kung gaano mo kamahal ang isang tao. Madalas malalaman mo na lang kung gaano mo siya kamahal kapag nawala na siya sa iyo. And when you lose that person, you lose a part of yourself, too. Umaasa ka na lang na sa paglipas ng panahon maibalik mo kung ano man ang nawala sa iyo o kung hindi man maibalik ang dati, babaguhin na lang ng panahon ang lahat ng bagay.

                        Pero bakit hindi bingao ng panahon ang puso mo? Bakit kahit alam mong tapos na ang lahat ay pilit mo pa ring binabalikan ang simula. At lagi mo tinatanong, paano kaya kung mas minahal mo siya? Paano kaya kung hindi mo na lang siya minahal? Paano  kaya kung hindi na lang kayo nagkakilala, para mabura na lang siya sa alaala mo. Paano kaya kung nagkatagpo kayo... ibang tao ka, ibang tao rin siya? Sa ibang pagkakataon, sa ibang lugar, sa ibang panahon... maiiba rin kaya ang tadhana nyo? Kamay mo na ba ang hawak nya? Pangalan mo na ba ang bukang bigbig niya? Ikaw nab a ang nasa tabi nya? Ikaw na ba iyong kayakap niya? Ikaw na ba ang dahilan ng mga ngiti niya? O ikaw pa rin ang dahilan kung bakit mas pinili niya na maghal ng iba?

                        Minsan nakakapagtaka talaga kung bakit pinagtagpo ulit kayo kung paghihiwayin din naman ulit. Pwedeng it’s just a second chance hindi para sa happy ending but just to end things.

                        Ang daming tanong, no? Minsan talaga we need a time apart para masagot ang mga tanong na iyan. Pero ang pinakamagandang sagot lang naman doon is when you accept the truth na sa kabila ng lahat mahal nyo pa rin ang isa’t isa.”

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               “Everybody should go with time, pwera lang ang love dahil ang love may sariling time frame; may sariling panahon. Hindi ito pinipilit.”

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        “Time is meaningless when you’re in love.”